In leaving Community Group last night, I was encouraged to consider the sin of bitterness further but I really didn’t feel as though we had come away with a clear plan for destroying the root of bitterness. After all, it’s the root of sin that we must defend against and destroy. Otherwise we merely mask the issue with behavioral change. So in my quest to mortify the sin of bitterness in my heart I ask the question, “What can I do?” It has been established, as with all sin, that we cannot change our heart’s condition. That power lies with God and God alone. But as always I would defend that God has given us means of grace by which He normally works, through which we can best position ourselves to receive healing and experience the fullness of God’s forgiveness in the Gospel through Christ.
Consider Matthew 18:21-35:
21Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” 22Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy times seven.
23″Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants. 24When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents. 25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26So the servant fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 27And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 28But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii, and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 29So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 30He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. 31When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 32Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers, until he should pay all his debt. 35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.” (ESV)
Do not read this story with familiar eyes. This story is SHOCKING! How unbelievably wicked of this servant that he would call upon his debtor of 100 denarii to pay up after being forgiven a debt of 10,000! But its worse than that, isn’t it? The wicked servant seizes his servant by the neck and begins to choke him! What a picture of violence! The point of this detail in the story is to say to us, “In light of the magnitude of the debt you’ve been forgiven, to then turn and cling to bitterness against your brother is as violent and vile as seizing your brother by the neck so to choke him and throw him in prison…holding him there until his debt is paid or your sense of justice is satisfied.”
This is preposterous! We know these words of Jesus, “He who has been forgiven much loves much.” How outrageously wicked that I should EVER cling to bitterness over some perceived wrong. Where was God’s sense of justice as He passed over my 10,000 sins to claim me as His own? I’ll tell you where! It was hanging there with Christ, satisfied by the nails which pierced his hands and feet!
To cling to bitterness, anger and resentment is to MISS the Gospel! I have been forgiven…not 10,000 days wages but 10 TRILLION. “But God shows his love for us, that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” “For Christ suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God…”
The sin of bitterness either fails to behold the glory of the Gospel or it is simply unmoved by the mercy of God. It is an affront against God’s grace which is the pinnacle of His glory! It fails to believe that God has forgiven us, that God works every cause for bitterness for our ultimate good, that God is faithful to exact justice. Most importantly, it projects into the world the lie that there is no such thing as grace with God. The sin of bitterness displays our lack of love which in turn tells the lie that God has not forgiven much, either because sin is not so heinous as to deserve everlasting death or because God is not faithful to forgive us our sins and so we are left without hope.
So then, if this sin results from a failure to behold the unending mercies of the Cross, then the only solution is to meditate on the holiness of God, the heinousness of our sins, the magnitude of our debt and the free Grace of God in Jesus Christ. The heart that has been captivated by the love of God in Christ for us, demonstrated by the great grace through which He loved us on the Cross, will be freed to suffer ANY injustice with joy and not bitterness. So then, let us lay the axe of the Gospel to the root of bitterness and so be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

